I Hung up my Bridle Today
by Kris Garrett
11-11-09
Yesterday, for the first time, I was too tired to ride
Yesterday, for the first time, I was afraid I would be hurt if I was thrown
Yesterday, for the first time, I heard someone say my barn was too shabby
Yesterday, for the first time, I let someone tell me I was too pudgy to ride
Yesterday, for the first time, I realized I was old
Yesterday, for the first time, I had to face that I could no longer keep up
Yesterday, for the first time, I had to let go of my dreams
Yesterday, for the first time, I felt my heart break
Yesterday, for the first time, I turned my back on my friend
Yesterday, for the first time, I knew I was done
Today, for the last time, I felt warm, braided leather in my hands.
Today, for the last time, I ran my stirrups up so they wouldn't bang
my mare's sides
Today, for the last time, I released the buckles on the girth and
watched my girl sigh
Today, for the last time, I slowly dropped the bit so it wouldn't hit her teeth
Today, for the last time, I gave my mare a cookie to thank her for the ride
Today, for the last time, I buried my head in her soft, warm neck
Today, for the last time, I inhaled the sun and the dust in her long winter coat
Today, for the last time, I closed the gate and trudged to the muddy porch
Today, for the last time, I tracked hay and horse hair into my house
Today, for the last time, I pulled off my boots and felt the sting of
warm blood returning to my cold toes
Today, for the first time, I cried after my ride
Today, for the first time, I felt my hands shake as I set the saddle on its rack
Today, for the first time, I hugged my young trainer a final goodbye
Today, for the first time, I waited for the new owner's trailer to arrive
Today, for the first time, I set my boots in a box to go to the Goodwill
Today, for the first time, I sighed at the wear on my riding gloves
Today, for the first time, I had no hay in my hair
Today, for the first time, I did not hear nickering when I opened my back door
Today, for the first time, I felt worse leaving the barn that I did
when I entered
Today, for the first time, I had no one to check on before going to bed
Tomorrow, for the first time, I won't have to buy hay
Tomorrow, for the first time, I can stay in bed longer
Tomorrow, for the first time, I won't see the poop pile grow
Tomorrow, for the first time, I won't be able to fly on four legs
Tomorrow, for the first time, I will be sorry I listened
Tomorrow, for the first time, I will regret letting her go
Tomorrow, for the first time, I will be angry at God
Tomorrow, for the first time, I will be angry at myself
Tomorrow, for the first time, I will cry the day away
Tomorrow, for the first time, I will be glad to die
Day after tomorrow, for the first time, I will awaken in tears
Day after tomorrow, for the first time, I will know I was wrong
Day after tomorrow, for the first time, I will defy all the judgement
Day after tomorrow, for the first time, I will ignore my old bones
Day after tomorrow, for the first time, I will return the buyer's check
Day after tomorrow, for the first time, I will bring my friend home
Day after tomorrow, for the first time, I will take my boots out of the box
Day after tomorrow, for the first time, I will be reborn
For the rest of my life, I will have a horse in my yard
For the rest of my life, I will ignore the cruel judging
For the rest of my life, I will watch the poop pile grow
For the rest of my life, I will have hay in my hair
For the rest of my life, I will track mud in my house
For the rest of my life, I will bury my face in her soft neck
For the rest of my life, I will let my soul fly
For the rest of my life, I will never be alone
One thing I found when working with traumatized horses is the need to really drop all expectations and go with their flow. There will be good days and 'bad' days. Rejoice in those days when everything goes along, the horse wants to play, you dance inside with a grin from ear to ear. Don't take personally the days when they're not "in the mood", just admire Cookie's beauty and do something with Nestor instead, it really helps :-). I'm sure Cookie will slowly become more trusting, you and Carola have already made such big leaps. The fact you are trying so hard to help Cookie find her safe place again is a wonderful thing.
You hit the nail on the head Dolores. Glad you appreciate me playing devil’s advocate Julie, rather than just a pain in the butt. But since I haven’t actually done CAT with truly aggressive or fearful horse, I probably make a good guinea pig for trying to explain it to someone. I do wonder, however, about the “excited” horse- as Cindy so aptly defined Zoe. Could they be legitimate CAT candidates as well? Just so darn full of energy and told to stuff it until they explode....or are they more CT horses? Right- if CT works, they are CT horses, right? But if movement is more rewarding than anything else, and a click just gets them dancing again rather than calmer, then not?
By the way, Anna says Zoe is doing very well. She rarely sees tongue chewing. Once recently she trucked her to go trail riding with a friend and it was a windy day (aren’t they all in Wyoming?) so as she was tied to the trailer and Anna was trying to tack her up, she saw some tongue chewing. Once she got on and Zoe could WALK, she was fine. She also taught her (in one session) to halt for a treat from a canter, starting with chucking treats at her at a standstill, then “charging the clicker” and moving on up through the gaits. She’s a work in progress but we wouldn’t have them any other way-
-- Jane Bookends Farm
E. Ryegate, VT www.bookendsfarm.com
www.bookendsfarm.blogspot.com/
Switchover means that the fearful or aggressive behaviors have been
extinguished and replaced by affiliative, friendly or even playful
alternatives.
You must be able to see it. So, it's not mystical.
For Jane,
In the case of the tongue chewing, you would no longer be seeing that
behavior you would be seeing behavior that did not look like stress. You get
to define the behaviors you want to see. But, you must describe them in
terms that can be observed.
You can't say, for example "She's no longer stressed" or She's no longer
chewing her tongue"
You must say something like "Her ears are up and alert" "Her mouth is quiet"
Make sense?
Dolores
OK thanks Jane, I thought the definition was anything but mystical (hahaha - I am so not mystical - so now you have me worried) - I thought it went someway to describe a process and very little of the experiences - trying to focus on the basis for its use, rather than it 'is'....but I take your point, as part of the reason I wanted to hash out a definition of sorts was to try and make it easier and clearer when we are describing it.
But it is great you can play the devils advocate - can you highlight what you see as needing some tweaking?
No- this was back when I tried to explain my understanding and she pointed out I had missed it. Is there a way to “see” this- you have all described (somewhat mystical) experiences...if this is science, is there a scientific way to define it? -- Jane Bookends Farm E. Ryegate, VT www.bookendsfarm.com www.bookendsfarm.blogspot.com/
On 11/14/09 5:08 PM, "Julie Lannen" <equilog3@...> wrote:
did I miss an email Laurel?
No- this was back when I tried to explain my understanding and she pointed out I had missed it. Is there a way to “see” this- you have all described (somewhat mystical) experiences...if this is science, is there a scientific way to define it?
-- Jane Bookends Farm
E. Ryegate, VT www.bookendsfarm.com
www.bookendsfarm.blogspot.com/
Well, as Laurel pointed out- we missed the “switchover” (is that what you call it?)
-- Jane Bookends Farm
E. Ryegate, VT www.bookendsfarm.com
www.bookendsfarm.blogspot.com/
CAT stands for Constructional Aggression Therapy. We use it for horses by modifying the A to stand for Approach. It was a technique originally designed for exceptionally fearful or aggressive animals, especially those who might be tempted to stuff emotions to work for a “normal” reinforcer, such that they later explode. Due to their exceptional fear, the best reinforcer for them is actually the removal of whatever is causing their fear.
In its very basic form CAT uses Negative Reinforcement in an operant way to effect change in behaviour: To extinguish some behaviours that are not beneficial to the horse and replace them operantly with others. The tricky part to focus on is that we remove the object of distress during CAT trials because this is perceived by the horse as a reward.
We are guiding the horse to find the answers in the environment so that a human is not needed to create the change. This means that during CAT trials we do not click and treat. Rather, we give the horse distance when he shows us something that is consistent with a change in perception of the distressing situation.
The therapeutic goal of CAT is enabling. It aims to support the animal to change its perception of certain things, thereby enabling it to display new behaviours in certain earlier distressing situations. In other words our role is to facilitate change.
Now an analogy –
CAT can be likened to a dance (to borrow a phrase). In my dance, there is a prelude - whereby permission is given to take the lead. The partner approaches his potential dance partner and offers a hand. The shy lady demurs a moment. The potential partner waits for her. She gets up, fully understanding that this IS a partnership. He has given a reason to be trusted.
The horse has to feel comfortable with my choice of dance first before I can hope to take the lead. The horse will tell me when I can approach and lead and only when the horse tells me this have I any hope to build on the positive relationship. To that end it can be seen that our partnership starts with active listening.
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Behalf Of Julie Lannen Sent: Friday, November 13, 2009 11:00 PM To: zenhorsemanship@yahoogroups.com Subject: [zenhorsemanship] a definition
Hi
All, here is what our definition looks like so far -
CAT
stands for Constructional Aggression Therapy. We use it for horses by modifying
the A to stand for Approach. It was a technique originally designed for
exceptionally fearful or aggressive animals, especially those who might be
tempted to stuff emotions to work for a “normal” reinforcer, such that they
later explode. Due to their exceptional fear, the best reinforcer for
them is actually the removal of whatever is causing their fear.
In
its very basic form CAT uses Negative Reinforcement in an operant way to effect
change in behaviour: To extinguish some behaviours that are not beneficial to
the horse and replace them operantly with others. The tricky part to focus on
is that we remove the object of distress during CAT trials because this is
perceived by the horse as a reward.
We
are guiding the horse to find the answers in the environment so that a human is
not needed to create the change. This means that during CAT trials we do not
click and treat. Rather, we give the horse distance when he shows us something
that is consistent with a change in perception of the distressing situation.
The
therapeutic goal of CAT is enabling. It aims to support the animal to change
its perception of certain things, thereby enabling it to display new behaviours
in certain earlier distressing situations. In other words our role is
to facilitate change.
Now
an analogy –
CAT
can be likened to a dance (to borrow a phrase). In my dance, there is a prelude
- whereby permission is given to take the lead. The partner approaches his
potential dance partner and offers a hand. The shy lady demurs a moment. The
potential partner waits for her. She gets up, fully understanding that this IS
a partnership. He has given a reason to be trusted.
The
horse has to feel comfortable with my choice of dance first before I can hope
to take the lead. The horse will tell me when I can approach and lead and only
when the horse tells me this have I any hope to build on the positive
relationship. To that end it can be seen that our partnership starts with
active listening.
Yeah , unfortunately I'll never teach the old horse again.
And I don't know how to reach her mind.
If I just show her the pad, she'll come , sniff it and go away.
If I go away before she turns, she will follow me, but I am supposed to stay in front of her.
Sometimes I may put the haynet on her back, or the Pad, she tolerates, but after a very short time of reflection, she will put distance between me and her.
In summer a very good and confident clicker-trainer tried to get her to accept the pad.
she was first on lead, so she accepted it a little bit.
Once off lead, she tolerated the pad 2 or 3 times and than
she clearly needed SPACE between her and the friend of mine.
She walked over where I stand, and waited to be caressed by me.
As my clickerfriend asked me, not to do so, she finally went casually back in the circle, but not towards her.
She clearly showed the behavior of the "punir"-dog.
So there I'm stuck
Maybe I shall all the things start to retrain only on the right side ?
Would LTJ - touch help her ?
Once she started to throw the hoop over her head, she get it, one of my friends cried happily
"jackpot" and rushed towards her, she was afraid and sometimes she touches the hoop, but she never throw it around her head again.
She seems oversensitive to noise .
I bought her to breed with her too.
But with this anxiety I'm afraid to get a foal so shy as she was and is,
she will educate it, but with the state of her mind, and this mind is not very confident - I don't even stress "genetics" here.
Maybe I shall accept that I bought a wonderful, beautiful, tender (if not stressed) and rather expensive lawnmower
I suspect she will be afraid of everything that possible reminds her of the disaster time.
We can't go back to before. We can get close though and pretty soon, it will be a distant memory. In the mean time, we have to help her build new experiences instead of trying to get back to the old.
>>
Before the event she brought herself to the mounting-block!!!!<<
I like analogies. So, here's one for you. We have had woodstoves forever both here in Arkansas and in New York. We burnt wood with no problem for 30 years or more. Last year we had two chimney fires in NY. We don't know why.
I think the not knowing why is the hardest. We think there was a problem with the stove but the not knowing makes it virtually impossible to create a situation where you think you've fixed it. Anyway, I can't build a fire, even a small one without my stomach turning over and over again. Last year in Arkansas I didn't use the woodstove once even though there was no problem here.
So, it will be a long road to be able to build a fire again if ever. I need to decide if it's worth it.
And so it was with your girl. She was certain she knew all about this mounting thing. And likely she doesn't know what happened that day. But, it was very scary.
What we need to do it re-teach from the beginning. But, we are teaching a new horse. This new horse has a background. The old horse did not. We will never be teaching that old horse again.
Here's another analogy that happened just the other day with my Harvey horse. Harvey always jumps water crossings. He's a big jumper and it was getting hard on my back. So, I thought I'd insist that he walk thru the smaller crossings.
We taught it. He never liked it but he did do it.
We have a stream here in the pasture in Arkansas. On the day we arrived and turn the boys loose, I watched Harvey as he came to the stream crossing. He was so clearly conflicted. One step and he'd be over that water. But, the conflict in his mind was like a movie playing. He'd walk up to it, back up, look for another crossing. He could easily jump it or walk thru it. But he was clearly upset. What ever had I created crossed my mind. Eventually, he did jump it. They all do. It's literally a few inches deep and maybe a foot across.
When the foundling girls were here, they walked thru it splashing sometime. But they also swam in the pond. My boys never do. They'll never get their feet wet. There mother was the same. She hated getting her feet wet. She must have taught them well when I wasn't looking. And although I was successful at teaching him he could walk thru the water, he doesn't like it.
On the TV program Amazing Race, one couple had to go down a water slide. The winner in this TV show gets a million dollars. Clearly it was safe to go down the slide. It was in a water park. But, the woman in the show was afraid of water and even though it meant losing their chance at one million dollars, she could not do it.
So, let's understand where she is now and work from there.
CAT stands for Constructional Aggression Therapy. We use it for horses by modifying the A to stand for Approach. It was a technique originally designed for exceptionally fearful or aggressive animals, especially those who might be tempted to stuff emotions to work for a “normal” reinforcer, such that they later explode. Due to their exceptional fear, the best reinforcer for them is actually the removal of whatever is causing their fear.
In its very basic form CAT uses Negative Reinforcement in an operant way to effect change in behaviour: To extinguish some behaviours that are not beneficial to the horse and replace them operantly with others. The tricky part to focus on is that we remove the object of distress during CAT trials because this is perceived by the horse as a reward.
We are guiding the horse to find the answers in the environment so that a human is not needed to create the change. This means that during CAT trials we do not click and treat. Rather, we give the horse distance when he shows us something that is consistent with a change in perception of the distressing situation.
The therapeutic goal of CAT is enabling. It aims to support the animal to change its perception of certain things, thereby enabling it to display new behaviours in certain earlier distressing situations. In other words our role is to facilitate change.
Now an analogy –
CAT can be likened to a dance (to borrow a phrase). In my dance, there is a prelude - whereby permission is given to take the lead. The partner approaches his potential dance partner and offers a hand. The shy lady demurs a moment. The potential partner waits for her. She gets up, fully understanding that this IS a partnership. He has given a reason to be trusted.
The horse has to feel comfortable with my choice of dance first before I can hope to take the lead. The horse will tell me when I can approach and lead and only when the horse tells me this have I any hope to build on the positive relationship. To that end it can be seen that our partnership starts with active listening.
Great feedback Doris. I think it's clear we are dealing with a traumatic event fear.
And, it's complicated by the trust she initially had. She trusted, it all went awry and now she doesn't want to play that game.
There's nothing worse for a horse than feeling trapped. We want to try to erase that memory of the trauma. It will have to be very systematic.
The saddle and pad needs to be part of everything you do. And you must be very observant for any small change in the way she feels about it. Instead of thinking that you want to touch the saddle or saddle pad to her. Think instead that the saddle or saddle pad is part of your clothing.
It's hard to stuff a saddle into your belt but if you have one light enough that you could carry it while you brush, nuzzle and C/T with her. At the same time, you'll be in CAT mode yourself.
It might help if at first you carry something that may be the size of a saddle but not a saddle. Let's say a bucket slipped over your arm. What can you do with her while having a bucket slung on your arm.
Let's test this. If she shows signs of being afraid, you know the drill wait below threshold until she shows anything calm and happy. Then, leave for a few steps. Count to ten and start again. In normal conditions I might say to put the bucket down. But, in this case I think it would be helpful for her to consider this bucket part of you.
In a way, this is like Julie's Star and the rug. I'm pretty sure Julie will tell you he doesn't really like the rug still. But, he's OK with it.
>> she dislikes strongly to be touched with any object on her back, shoulder, especially on the left side. <<
Hi Doris,
This made me think of a course in body language I attended a few weeks ago, with Norwegian trainer Ellen Ofstad. One of the clinic horses was an Icelandic, who turned out to be quite wary on one side of his body. He would do very akward turns just to present his right side to Ellen, and was quite tense whenever she or anyone else was on his left.
Her advice to the owner was to introduce new things only on the side where he was comfortable, and only do relaxed, well-known stuff on the difficult side. She illustrated this by standing by his difficult side eating an apple and sharing that with him.
Just thought I’d mention this in case it might be useful. I think you’ve already come a long way by observing Cookie so well that you know one side is harder for her.
Going back and analyzing what happened to her 7 months ago /
I could already seat on her and she was saddled, mu husband took the rope and we did 3 or 4 steps forward, than a light turn, than 3 steps back, lots of CT and lots of hugs, and laughter.
Than I thought : a professional rider would be better than me.
First ride : saddle and halter, I guide her, she is cool,
second time the pro decided to give her a bridle, not good at all, Cookie acts up, the pro falls down, Cookie too.
third time : very windy day.
Nestor is with her, as long as he stays on her side and nozzles the saddle etc...sqhe seems stressed, but puts the head down, the rider goes on
and off.
And than the pro decides to put her along the hedge, Nestor is not near.
She gets on once, cookie lowers the head, she goes off, than she demands to do it a second time .
My belly-feeling said NO, I told her, but she insisted.
It was my fault, I agreed, thinking, hoping that she is the pro.
Suddenly Cookie stiffens, head high, tense all over her body, maybe a little n oise in the hedge, caused by the stormy wind.
As I stand halfway in Front of her, she started like in the racing-starting-bopx, I fell, she stumbled over my legs, the pro fell too, Cookie slided over the gravels on the way, fell down too.
I could take her, but she turned just around in panick on thne leading rope, no possibility to take the saddle off, she was trembling,kicking with her hoofs against her tail...
After long
minutes we could calm her, putting Nestor at her side and in his company we could do the 800 m back to her paddock.
And that was it and is it, nearly no change in the anxious behavior in regard of any rope, cloth, saddlepad, saddle on her back and behind .
Today, 30 minutes ago, I let them out in the grassy paddock, I had spread out the black plastic.
She was the last one to come, the others were not near and she managed to go over the rug with just a slight hesitation, like you'll have crossing some slippery ground.
I went than to scratch first all the others, came back to her, scratched behind the ears, the mane, the back, the buttock on the right side, went away as she stayed calm, talked a bit with Gamila, came back to the left side, she let me touch her all over.
THan back on the right side I cleaned the space between her
mammillas, let her sniff at it.
She stood with out ear-pinning , and after regarding my black hands, she went back to eat, and I left.
By the way, we had a similar issue with the trailer, I overcame it with CT,
even the vaccination, not possible the first year, can be done by the FEMALE vet
Dewormer-paste is still difficult, but it is manageable.
And she hugs me. It's the horse you are in perfect confidence when she puts hernose in your face.
Each horse pushes us to new heights don't they. As soon as you think you've got something nailed - well the horse that's different shows up.
Certainly I can think of ways to use both CAT and CT with this horse. But will we create a horse that likes Brussels Sprouts :)
I use Brussels Sprouts as an example because I don't think there is any way that I will ever like them. Even cooked to perfection, I'll eat them now but the thought of them is repulsive. My mom would cook them until they were gray and bitter. It's all I can think of.
The other day I was corresponding with someone about food. As it turns out there is some hardwiring in the brain that says if some food makes you sick you will have strong revulsion reflexes against that food. It's a protection mechanism left over from when we had to forage for food. If a food made you feel bad, it was likely not good for you.
Once a long time ago, I had a hot dog with mustard. Not related to the food I got really sick with a stomach flu right after. For about 10 years I could not even think about mustard without getting that queasy feeling.
The good news is that I now do eat mustard. It took my husband who is an excellent sandwich maker to change the feeling. But, it took a long time.
All this to say, what's up with this horse. How do we create good feelings about the saddle and tack on her sides.
Standard clicker training would say that as presented in the fear DVD, you'd slowly present the saddle and make the saddle the cue to start a session of easy target/click/treats.
Standard CAT would say that you'd use the saddle to extinguish one feeling about the saddle and shape a new one.
I hear you say that you can get the saddle near but you have not achieved the desired switch over to liking the saddle. The difference being the feeling that I switched over to likening mustard but have not been able to switch over to liking Brussels Sprouts.
So, now we have to deal with your feelings on the subject. If this were your only horse and your only means of transportation and you had to go and get a doctor for your sick child, my guess is that you'd find a way to get that horse saddled and ride off no matter what.
I have the same feelings about trailers. My horses prefer our big 3-horse trailer. They don't really like the Brenderup. They tell me with the slight hesitation. But, in the case of bringing 4 horses to Arkansas someone has to ride in the Brenderup. In the case of trailers they have to get on no matter how they feel about it. It may mean their life one day if they have to get to life saving medical care or get out of the way of a disaster like hurricanes or wildfires. Of course I will do all that I can to make it as comfortable as I can. But, the bottom line is they have to get on.
So back to Doris' horse. We could desensitize her. We could make acceptance of the saddle touching her a pre-requisite of anything we do with her so that she gets to see that it's no big deal. That does not mean that she will like it. It is imperative that the saddle not lead to anything she doesn't want to do.
The question goes back to Doris. Is this something you want to tackle. Or is she fine with where she is in life? My friend Jane Savoie created a Freedom from Fear program for people. When she describes getting over fear, she does it in a very CAT like way. If you are afraid to ride one step may simply be to go visit a barn where horses are ridden with no plans to ride yourself. Or you may simply think about the visit. Thinking about it in vivid detail is just as good as actually going. Of course in this instance we know that the person wants to ride. That is her motivation.
But, what of Doris' horse. What is her motivation? It's an interesting question. What does the touching of a saddle represent to Doris' horse? What do we want to change the saddle to represent?
--- In zenhorsemanship@yahoogroups.com, doris boyer <pablopolkaprisca@...>
wrote:
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> My feeling s are quite mixed. , tending towards hopeless, sadness
>
Dear Doris!
This is the crux of it all is it not? When we start to listen with ears, eyes
and heart we suddenly realize our horses have opinions and not always the same
wishes as we?
I want to RIDE...but some days my horse doesn't want to at all... I can then
choose to do as almost every horse owner do: ignore the horse and tack him up
and ride saying he is lazy;-) Or I have to readjust my wishes to be something
both me and my horse seems to want..
The problem is when we have started to see and hear we have a very hard time
ignoring our horses. Sometimes I feel a bit jelous of people who shamelessly
uses their horses for whatever they want themselves... but I always remember
that I do not WANT to do that any longer;-)
I waited for three years to become so close with my Jazz as you describe you are
with your horse! Do not despair, enjoy all the things you CAN do with her and
feel that she likes it!
And sometimes it helps greatly to just STOP focusing on the problem, as if the
horses feel we are not content with them and therefore they get very tense as
soon as we approach "the problem" once again....
Jazz was like that: if I was full of my wanting to hug her and scratch her she
became VERY suspicious...and honestly I can feel the same...as when someone you
do not really know shows very clearly that he or she WANTS something from you...
like a persistent but unwanted suitor;-) In the end I TOLD Jazz that I loved her
and were going to go ON doing that but that she did NOT need to love me back at
all...
That took the pressure away... (someone saying needs and wants can't be felt as
pressure?? ;-)
Hang in there, you will work it out in the end, between the two of you!
Ulrika (who now gets kisses from her Jazz...after four years;-)
My feeling s are quite mixed. , tending towards hopeless, sadness
She is real loving to come and go with me, she loves the clickergames, loves to be the only horse I'm occupied with. She loves the scratches behind the ears, putting her nose on mine, she loves when I blow air into her nostrils, she loves scratching the buttocks, cleaning the space between her mammellons
But
she dislikes strongly to be touched with any object on her back, shoulder, especially on the left side.
She'd put her ears unwillingly back, and goes quietly away after a small moment of reflexion
she like the treats she knows, but dislikes anything
new
On Wed, Nov 11, 2009 at 8:57 AM, Dolores Arste <darste3@...> wrote:
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> Thank you Cindy for the update. You are doing such a good job with porter.
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> We did arrive in Hatfield. All is well. The boys are having a great time.
Glad you arrived without incident. :)
> Did I mention that our friend used a stocking over her mare's nose when she
rode. That for some reason stopped the shaking. Since he likes it when you
cradle his nose I remembered the stocking.
You did tell me that and it's a common suggestion on the headshaking
list. I tried it. NOT a pretty situation. Nor was a fly mask with nose
cover. And in truth, he didn't like, or maybe I should say, "trust" me
touching his nose or chin at first. We clicked it. Very short, brief
contact. Very calm approach. Now I am working on inviting him to
target those face parts to my hands. He is moving into them much more
willingly than at first. I could probably introduce the stocking
gradually, now that he is more comfortable with me handling his face,
but I haven't gone there for now. I think there are other, bigger
issues to address, and frankly, I think trying to put panty hose on
his nose might well undo the trust we've built right now.
The theory on the stocking is that having some physical contact or
pressure on the nose gives the nerve something else to respond to,
besides the purported zingy sensations that prompt the shaking.
Thanks for mentioning it though. I may consider it again further down the line.
Cheers,
Cindy
As a cat (and CAT ;-) ) lover, that's a lovely story to hear. My previous cat was a feral kitten, he reminded me of a black Egyptian cat, he was so beautiful. He was sole survivor of his litter, his feral mother left him here just before she was killed by a neighbour's dog. He accepted me, then my family, after some years stopped "disappearing" when we had visitors, and lived till he was 17.
>>>Actually what I’m asking is “why all the fuss?” It’s not THAT different.
This is exactly what has been so hard all along for me to understand too, it IS so simple and SO compatible. CAT and CT mesh so well, it's just using a different quadrant, the animal is simply in a different mode mentally. What always struck me most was the way horses flow so easily and with great understanding between the two, why do we humans always have to complicate things :-). I'm really excited to see what Alex will one day do with what Alex, Lady and I together did at the Saratoga clinic, how the horses took the cueing between CAT and CT thing, and turned it into cueing when they were ready to entrust their spines, absolutely awesome. I said to Alex at the time, the way she noticed and immediately incorporated it was also awesome. I also told her she's probably a genius, and we have been conversing offlist about things all the while, right up to this morning. Please believe there is no unkindness here. Sorry I'm probably off topic Yet Again Dolores, glad you've arrived safely :-),
>>The Fear DVD is wonderful and works really well. So what I really think
>>you are asking is why use CAT instead of the CT method.
Actually what I'm asking is "why all the fuss?" It's not THAT different.
But the two "sides" make it sound like the other side can't possibly
understand. ugh<<
Exactly. I can't answer this one. Remember what Alex said about the dead
slilence when Jesus presented to Clicker Expo? It's almost like you need to
have or know of the animal that needs CAT to be willing to give it a try.
I'm not even going to venture a guess as to why when even at that level of
teacher, there was no dialog on the subject.
Warmly,
Dolores
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Thank you Cindy for the update. You are doing such a good job with porter.
We did arrive in Hatfield. All is well. The boys are having a great time.
Did I mention that our friend used a stocking over her mare's nose when she rode. That for some reason stopped the shaking. Since he likes it when you cradle his nose I remembered the stocking.
On 11/10/09 11:02 PM, "Dolores Arste" <darste3@...> wrote:
The Fear DVD is wonderful and works really well. So what I really think you are asking is why use CAT instead of the CT method.
Actually what I’m asking is “why all the fuss?” It’s not THAT different. But the two “sides” make it sound like the other side can’t possibly understand. ugh
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