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I Have had Hartford for like 3 months now. I think the reason it is so bad right now is cause #1 (Ill be the first to admit) my patience is lacking ... #2. I dont see any progress in terms of riding in my horse..
With all those considered Im atleast hoping that he'd be bonding well with me since hes doing absolutely nothing. but even that. Nope. not happening.well see tomorrow...tomorrow is the day to ride him finally lets see if that happens. :) I am being hopeful!!! This is the last string though I will have to say if the rings are open (it rained hardcore for the past couple days in LA) and its somewhat sunnY!! she has no excuse! Its the last straw for me... then it is really just going onto the mexican guy. Thats it. :P tough luck right am I wrong guys? Am I not the most patient Client ever!?!
On 1/31/08, reagan bailey <ruffian0000@...> wrote:
It just takes time - how long have you had him? Also I think that if you start riding him you will see it come along as well. I know that I did. It took about 6 months before I really noticed that Tay knew me and recognized me and LIKED seeing me. Time time time. It can take even longer than that. We feel that immediate bond and maybe are used to having it in our dogs or whatever (not so much with cats LOL) and expect it right back like you would get in a dog BUT its just not the same thing. I have never been the one to feed mine except occasionally when I am at the barn during feeding time BUT it happened just the same. I am the giver of treats which helps :). They don't think less of you or not like you because you give them structure and take them to task for acting like a jerk - that turns into respect much like I notice in the dog world. If you DON'T keep after them for acting up then that's when the respect never comes and they walk all over you - with an 1100 pound animal being walked all over isn't fun. Patience. I never thought it would happen and then WHAM - things started to come together in both our ground relationship as well as our riding relationship. When it happens, and it will, its like a bolt of lightening. Bammo.Thanks everyone for all the encouragement...but its so discouraging cause I thought WOW I FINALLY HAVE MY OWN HORSE!! and yet he longs for the lady who feeds him (which isnt me) :P My schedule is so busy that all i ever do is work work work...im a newbie and they got me traveling everywhere and my schedule is like upside down. Enough witht he complaining I guess.... I sort of just want a horse I can ride on the days off ... but why am I spending over 700 .... i know in the future I will be glad that I have him but the time now is so difficult to over come this feeling of doubt... like...BIG SIGH. WHYY did I buy him on a whim...
ok so i was excited... just started a job... as much as I like him. Its always me just getting after him these days... so why should he trust me if im yanking him chain. smacking him with the rope when he gets out of hand.... exactly why should he trust me at all. I wouldnt. Hes so food motivated which is a trend in all my animals except for my little parrotlet. anyways, long story short. I am getting DISCOURAGED! HELP!
On Jan 30, 2008 6:23 PM, Lexi Maxwell <accentsporthorses@...> wrote:
Evelyn, There is no doubt in my mind that Hurdle KNOWS that Ivy is his person. He is a total character and he is an absolute clown with Ivy. He is animated, anyway, but with Ivy, it really comes out. I didn't know him when she got him, but now, he is totally her horse. Horses don't bond as quickly as dogs. And since many are boarded and cared for by others, it can take even longer for them to bond with the person who actually owns them. Having treats as an initial greeting and also for rewards might help some, but don't over treat or you could spoil him or possibly make him disrespectful. It will take some time for him to realize that you are a constant in his life, even if you don't come every day. He'll have to make that connection somehow, so be as consistant as you can with your routine, and hopefully that will help. Just don't expect it overnight. Put yourself in his hooves... Why should he bond with you? What reasons does he have? What is in it for him? Other people are feeding him, and you just show up and ask him to work. He'll need to find something enjoyable that he can associate with you to help with the bonding. Regards, Lexi
Sent: Wednesday, January 30, 2008 7:12:18 AM
Subject: Re: [retraintbs] Re: New Horse, New owner...difficult beginnings
Evelyn,I had a similar problem when I got Hurdle. He was distant from me and really wanted nothing to do with me. I called a friend of mine that used to work on the track she said give it LOTS of time. some of these horses have been shuttled around so much they do not want to give their heart away to be broken, Once he realizes you are always going to be there he will give you heart and soul, I can attest to that. Ask Lexi how Hurdle and I play now but it took 2 years for us to bond like that! It will come in time...You do not know what happened in his past either and sometimes there are trust issues to be resolved too...Good luck,Ivy![]()
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