Martha,

Welcome to the group. You'll find us rather inactive until we get
booted off the Parelli Savvy Club list, but your emails will go to
everyone in our little group and I'm sure others than me will have
some encouragement for you.

When you get to the part in the Law of Attraction about the Emotional
Scale and your emotional guidance system, you will find more answers
on this subject. In the meantime, if Source is calling you to anger,
go there. Anger is relief from powerlessness and it sounds to me
like that's where you are with your husband. Writing in your journal
is a wonderful way to sift through your thoughts - just remember that
at any point in time, your sole "job" is to find relief and feel a
little better than you did a minute ago.

Tallyho!

Erin

--- In horsesloa@yahoogroups.com, "Martha" <m_manigross@...> wrote:
>
> I'm Martha. I am in the middle of reading The Law of Attraction
> (the Hicks version). I like it a lot, I'm getting it, and I am
> trying like heck to absorb more of it.
> Have read the Dyer books, and have tried to absorb them also.
> I seem to have issues with this: Not being able to let others be
> what they are. Especially my hubby.
> What do you do when one day everything is hunky dorey, and the
next,
> things seem to blow up? Like, I'm trying to just be myself, stop
> trying to get a certain response out of him. I used to try really
> hard to make sure I said everything just right, and then he'd still
> get really defensive or grumpy. Then I feel like it's my fault.
> Well, I'm trying REALLY hard to get past that.
> I got up this morning really annoyed. Something happened last
nite,
> i said what are we going to do about that??? And hubby just got
> tight lipped, tight jawed, and was grumpy and went to bed that
way.
> I wrote in my gratitude journal, and I saw that I was doing a lot
> of "I don't want" and immediately decided to turn that around
> to "Today I'm gonig to be productive, and be positive and get all
> these things done" (I tend to shut down and get burried in the
> computer or a book or tv and over-eat when I'm upset - I've dropped
> 30 lbs and am working on another 40 and sure don't want to go
> backward!).
>
> I know the answers - I've been reading them. Wondering if anyone
> else goes thru this or if you have any little mantras or ideas that
> you can share to turn things around in your head?
>
> Sharing the Joy
> Martha
>