We may have someone here who is not on the Savvy Club Forum so I'm
going to explain a little just in case.

Several of us began this discussion on that Forum. I knew at the
time that sooner or later we would come to point where the pwoers
that be over there wouldn't appreciate our exchange of ideas (they
call it advice), so here we are.

Karen posted a message there about her niece who is 14 and has had
challenges come her way. Karen's post was basically wanting some
assistance in what she can do to help her niece.

This is the meat of what I posted there yesterday that got moderated
out before everyone had a chance to read it, and yes, indeed, I am
giving Karen advice. She can take it if it feels good to her or
ignore it if it doesn't feel good. That's the thing about advice -
anyone can offer it. It's up to us to choose whether to lick and
chew on it or not!

Karen: The very best thing you can do for your niece is be a shining
light for her. Get as happy and as satisfied with your life as you
possibly can. Feel that feeling of connectedness and back in it.
She will feel that coming from you, too.

The next best thing you can do for her is ever so gently, and I mean
ever so gently, help her soften her feelings of discouragement and
failure. They are very normal and very easy for her to sink into.
Very softly remind her to keep her eyes on the prize. As Pat
says, "Focus on what you want and ignore the rest."

She knows what's right for her. She just might need a little
reminder that she has a guidance system in her gut that will lead
her - good feels good and bad feels bad. Remind her to go for the
good - to look for the loveliness in every moment.

She's very fortunate to have you in her life just as you are to have
her.

Tallyho!

Erin